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8 Beautiful Truths about Getting Married Young
When we got married, my husband was 24 and I had just turned 20 a couple months prior to our wedding.
For some people it was shocking, I had been asked If I was expecting our first child at least once, and other people thought we were just darn right crazy.
I guess it didn't help that Mike had bought the ring 6 months into our relationship and we had only known each other for a year and a few months by the time our wedding rolled around.
But when we knew we had found the one, and it felt right, we didn't see why we should wait to start our lives together.
Our decision had already been made.
Because of our expereince, I have been trying to put into words why "being married young" is one of the most beautiful decisions we have ever made. Because it truly has been amazing. Though some may disagree with some of my statements- and that is okay. Not everyone is in the same places in life, and we all make decisions based on our own best interest. And that is okay.
But we definatly want to share with you 8 beautiful truths about getting married young,
that we both have been lucky to experience.
1) Always growing side by side
When you make a decision and you TIE THE KNOT like my husband and I did at the age 20 and 24, you are embarking on a journey together, side by side. Because we were in our early 20's and married, statistics have shown that you are more at risk of getting divorced, I mean your too young to even know what a marriage looks like?
I think your view of marriage can be developed at even a young age, depending on how you view your parents marriage, and the marriages surrounding you as a child. So I don't think you can be too young to know what a marriage looks like, it's figuring out how to make a marriage work that takes some time.
But because we got married at a young age, we have been growing together side by side each and every day!
You really do grow together, but it does take work, and for us- having God as the center of our marriage has helped keep the glue between us so that we do not fall off our road that we have built together during our adventure.
2) We know the Stats
This was kind of talked about in the above point. As a young couple we were kind of familiar with the "statistics" of a young marriage. Doing some research for ourselves, we found that the "average age of a woman getting married is 27 and the average age of a man getting married is 29"- Brides Magazine
We also learned that "60 percent of marriages for couples between the ages 20 and 25 end in divorce"-National Center for Health Statistics
When researching these statistics we were not very suprised about the average age of marriage because we were basically the first out of both of our groups of friends to get married. But what came to a suprise to us was that 60 percent of marriages between the age 20 and 25 end in divorce.
We made a decision to not be a statistic, especially that statistic of divorce, and I think because you know the stats and you know there are people in the world who don't agree with your marriage is all the more reason to beat those statistics. We are happy to say that we have passed the 1 year anniversary mark and going onto our 2nd year.
3) Young, Crazy, Wild Romance
I think the title of this point pretty much sums it up. My husband met me when I was 18 going on 19 and he was 23 at the time. He knew me when I was in college, and when I graduated out of college. We were young and in love. Talking on the phone until 3am when we both had to be at school in the morning, driving at 10 at night just to see me at work when I closed shop. Spending every chance we could to be with each other! But this was when we were just dating, though somethings change when you get married like talking on the phone until 3 am because we do not need to anymore.
We now share a young, crazy and wild romance! It is so much fun!
4) As two are joined together
When we got married young, we found that it was super easy for us to just join our lives together. We both didn't have deeply established careers at the time, I had just graduated from college and Mike had his job with his dad's business. When I started my career with my own business from home, I started my business with a new last name. We have built our life on one foundation and we did not have to combine two different structures together, we were able to design our own structure together.
5) Let's go shopping!
When we got engaged we had the most fun and exciting time buying our FIRST home together. Along with the house we were able to pick out our furniture from our kitchen table, to our tv, to our couches and our bedset. These were all things that we needed because neither of us lived on our own prior to our marriage. They were all decisions we made together, rather than having one person bring 1 brown couch they already had and then the other person bringing a grey couch. We were able to plan together and make these little but fun decisions together. There is nothing like stepping into your new home as a married couple!
6) We have plenty of time!
Something we have really enjoyed is having plenty of time! I think if we waited and got married later on in life in our late 20's- early 30's we would have felt the pressure of having a huge savings account, and getting ready to become parents. Because we are married in our early 20's I have not felt that pressure of needing a huge savings account already and having kids right away. Instead we have been building our savings account stress free and we have been able to enjoy this adventure together as husband and wife before we become mom and dad.
7) Bucket List
We absolutely love going through our goals and putting them together into what you would call a bucket list. The best part about our bucket list and our list of goals that have been placed in is that we get to do these things TOGETHER. There is nothing like doing something you have always wanted to do in life, and being able to do it with your best friend, your best encourager and favorite person in the world! Being married young, we have so many dreams and goals for our future and we share those things together! It is seriously one of the most amazing adventures!
8) Forget the Norm!
We know that the a young marriage is NOT the norm in today's world! I think that because it is not the norm we got married because we wanted to, because we found the one our soul loves and we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We didn't just get married because we had to and because the rest of the world was waiting for us to, we did it because we simply found a love that would last a lifetime.